The Polite Ladies' Guide to Proper Etiquette: A Complete Guide for a Lady's Conduct in All Her Relations Towards Society
Arthur Martine
Language: English
Pages: 106
ISBN: 2:00357818
Format: PDF / Kindle (mobi) / ePub
A complete manual for those who desire to understand the rules of good breeding, the customs of good society, and to avoid incorrect and vulgar habits. Such as:
Clear and Comprehensive Directions for Correct Manners, Dress, and Conversation;
Instructions for Good Behavior at Dinner Parties, and the Table, with Hints on the Art of Carving and Taking Wine at Table
Together with the Etiquette of the Ball and Assembly Room, Evening Parties
Deportment in the Street and when Traveling
And the Usages to be Observed when Visiting or Receiving Calls
In addition to this readers will also master the etiquette of courtship, marriage, domestic duties, and fifty-six rules to be observed in general society.
matter. A modest countenance and pleasing figure, habited in an inexpensive attire, would win more attention from men, than awkwardness and effrontery, clad in the richest satins of Stewart and the costliest gems of Tiffany. There are occasionally to be found among both sexes, persons who neglect their dress through a ridiculous affectation of singularity, and who take pride in being thought utterly indifferent to their personal appearance. Millionaires are very apt to manifest this
promenades; but a young married lady is at liberty to walk with her friends of the same age, whether married or single. Gentlemen are permitted to call on married ladies at their own houses. Such calls the usages of society permit, but never without the knowledge and full permission of husbands. Ladies may walk unattended in the streets, being careful to pass on as becomes their station—neither with a hurried pace, nor yet affecting to move slowly. Shop-windows, in New York especially, afford
considerations of personal comfort or convenience to cause you to disregard the rights of fellow-travelers, or forget the respectful courtesy due to woman. The pleasantest or most comfortable seats belong to the ladies, and you should never refuse to resign such seats to them with a cheerful politeness. Sometimes a gentleman will go through a car and choose his seat, and afterward vacate it to procure his ticket, leaving his overcoat or carpet bag to show that the seat is taken. Always respect
reasoning to expose them. The man who exhibits a tendency to excesses will, sooner or later, be shunned by all except a few of his own stamp, and not even by them be respected. Guard against excess in all things, as neither gentlemanly nor human. Spitting is a filthy habit, and annoys one in almost every quarter, indoors and out. Since vulgarity has had its way so extensively amongst us, every youth begins to smoke and spit before he has well cut his teeth. Smoking is unquestionably so great a
If the discourse is of a grave or serious nature, and interesting to the party, or to any number of the party, never break in upon it with any display of idle wit or levity; for nothing shows so great a want of good manners; nor must you ever ridicule or doubt the existence of any noble enthusiasm that may have called forth expressions of admiration; for there is no want of high worth, patriotism, honor, and disinterestedness on earth. Your incredulity might therefore be unjust, and it is at all