The Bully at Work: What You Can Do to Stop the Hurt and Reclaim Your Dignity on the Job
Language: English
Pages: 352
ISBN: 1402224265
Format: PDF / Kindle (mobi) / ePub
A landmark book that blazed light on one of the business world's dirtiest secrets, The Bully at Work exposed the destructive, silent epidemic of workplace bullying that devastates the lives, careers, and families of millions. In this completely updated new edition based on an updated survey of workplace issues, the authors explore new grounds of bullying in the 21st century workplace.
Gary and Ruth Namie, pioneers of the Campaign Against Workplace Bullying, teach the reader personal strategies to identify allies, build their confidence, and stand up to the tormentor - or decide when to walk away with their sanity and dignity intact.
The Namies' expertise on workplace bullying has been featured in such media outlets as The Early Show, CBS Radio, The Howard Stern Show, CNN, PBS, NPR, USA Today, and theWashington Post.
"This is the best book on what workplace bullies do and how to stop them in their tracks. The Namie's remarkably useful and concrete advice has helped millions of people, and The Bully at Work will spread their tried-and-true wisdom to millions more."-Robert I. Sutton, Stanford Professor and author of The No Asshole Rule
"Sheds light on one of the business world's dirtiest secrets - corporate bullying." -Dayton Business Journal
"Filled with remedies for an ailment that is ravaging workplaces..."-Harvey A. Hornstein, PhD
with being controlled (reported by 58 percent of survey respondents) If the bully is the boss of the independent and skilled Target, the boss has only to constrain the Target’s creativity, pile on impossible burdens, or steal credit for accomplishments. These Target types will leave the job or stay to outwit the bully because, thanks to their self-confidence, they have a low threshold for the lies bullies dish out. If the bright Target chooses not to compete with the bully, he or she could be
vanquished retreats unnoticed and unloved. To win at the expense of other competitors is called zero-sum competition. In a zero-sum world, there are no shared victories, no proportional payouts. There is only one grand prize for the winner. Losers get nothing. Competition is driven by the perception of scarcity. There has to be a limited pool of possible rewards—monetary and social—over which workers have to fight. At work, social goodies can be as simple as civilized conversation, decent
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want the same thing, write out separate requests for each of them. I Want____________________ Spell out what you want the other person to do. Avoid abstractions like “show respect” or “be honest.” Don’t ask others to change their attitude; instead, specify an exact behavior: “I want an equal vote in deciding the new overtime policy.” When____________________ Specify a deadline for getting what you want. Give the exact time of day you want someone to do something, or the frequency with
bullying. There were gender differences in the attribution of responsibility for bullying. Survey respondents held men more than women bullied targets more responsible for their fate (24.4% vs. 16.1%). When the bully was a woman, her negative personality was given more weight as a causal factor than when the bully was a man (62.4% vs. 52.1%). Also, the blame was shifted to systemic factors (see previous) that were assigned more responsibility when the bully was a man than when the bully was a